At the start of every relationship is the “in love” euphoria whether both parties are 16 or 36 years old. It happens every time, with every new relationship.
People express love in 5 languages, I suppose you’ve heard them before. They are
2. Quality Time
3. Physical Touch
4. Words of Encouragement/Affirmation
5. Acts of Service
During the euphoria of the in-love experience, we tend to be overflowing in all five languages, in other words, abundantly giving love in all five ways.
However, almost everybody have only 1-2 primary love languages.
The in-love euphoria will always start and will always end. When it ends, people continue to give love, but only using their primary love language(s).
Seldom do both parties have the same love languages.
Here’s a little story to help you understand better:
During courtship, both parties are speaking in English, Chinese, French, German and Italian all together. Regardless of what language you understand, your partner will be able to communicate his love to you.
But after the euphoric “in love” experience has run its course, your partner will stop speaking 3-4 languages and continue to speak only his mother tongue.
To keep the electricity of courtship alive, learn your partner’s love language and make an effort to “speak” it!
Then find out together with your partner what your primary love language is. Ask him to “speak” that love language to you.
Just some tips on how to discover a person’s primary love language.
1. How does the person give love? E.g. a person whose primary love language is gifts will make gifts frequently for friends. A person whose love language is physical touch is very affectionate to friends.
2. What do you complain most about? If your primary love language is not spoken by people who should, you will feel empty inside and cry out for their love. How you cry out to them will give a hint as to what your primary love language is. Do you complain that they spend lots of time on other things don’t have time for you? (Quality Time) Do you complain that they are insensitive with words? (words of affirmation) Do you complain that they never help you with anything (Acts of Service)
True love does exists. Just learn to communicate it.