As I grow older and experience more, I realise that a relationship doesn’t equate to a marriage; Being in a relationship for a long time doesn’t mean you’ll eventually get married to each other; Being happy in a relationship doesn’t mean you’ll be happy as a married couple. A relationship is definitely not the same as a marriage. There is no black & white to document your relationship but for a marriage, a legally binding contract is signed by the couple and vows are made by both parties.
To me, marriage is something extremely sacred. I’m someone who thinks that the marriage certificate means a great deal. I’m someone who will tear when I hear people making sincere marriage vows. I’m someone who will smile to myself unknowingly when I attend weddings.
In a relationship, there is allowance to end it if you don’t think that both of you are suitable for each other or you don’t feel happy together or whatever other reasons there are. There’s not much strings attached. But for a marriage, I feel that it’s ridiculous to get a divorce. I believe that people get married because they want to settle down and build a family. A lot of time, effort and money have to be put in by the couple to plan a wedding and build a family. Imagine the buying of house, renovation work, wedding shoot, wedding banquet, etc. What if you’ve kids as well? It’s irresponsible to get a divorce and let the kids grow up in a broken family. What’s with all the stupid reasons like “we ain’t suitable” or “I don’t love him/her anymore”? Why get married in the first place if you ain’t suitable? What do marriage vows mean to these people? And I can never ever understand or tolerate people who have affairs when they are already married.
All these make me wonder, how do people know who’s the right one for them? What gives people the courage to commit to a marriage? What makes people so certain that you are ready to sign and vow to take the other person as your husband/wife forever?